Are you a young wife? Young is defined by a person not an age. Is your husband involved in ministry, not necessarily as a pastor? Do you feel enormous pressure as his wife? If yes, then you and I have at least three things in common.
Most people scoff when I tell them that God told me who I was going to marry, even before we were dating, and that I would be a wife in ministry one day. If I had any idea what that would mean, I don’t think I would have been so happy about it. Not marrying my husband, the ministry part.
Don’t misunderstand me, I love my husband and I love serving my God.
If you answered yes to any and all of those questions, then you probably know what I mean. There is enormous pressure on us, the wives, as we attempt to support our husbands. The grace it takes to function as a wife in ministry is phenomenal. I look with envy on the wives who’ve “done it” for 20+ years and exude the perfect pastor’s wife attitude.
I feel like I’m expected to be happy and helpful all the time. I feel like I can’t say “no” without that negatively reflecting on my husband. In fact, if I betray the way I really feel about something, if it’s not positive, I reap negative reprocussions.
I am human, opinionated, stubborn, loud, and obnoxious. I mentally have to remind myself to think before I speak. I think I am about as far from the wife in ministry persona as possible.
All of this said, I’m not complaining about my situation, I’m just looking for friends who can relate. After all, they don’t have pastor’s wives retreats because their lives are perfect, do they?